Monday, June 16, 2008
An Artist of Love
If we are artists, if we are creators, then we can create our life with Love. That's my goal.
I am making it NO secret, I want to be really good at loving others. Whether it's the love of a dear friend, the love you give to a child, the love to a student, the love to someone you are serving, the love to someone who is serving you, the romantic love we all long for, and the love I have as a daughter and a sister and a hopeful, future mother...I want to be good at loving.
But does it ever get you down to see just how unloving we can be as humans? How many breakups have you been through, how many divorces have you seen, how many people being unkind to others, how many times have you been not so good at loving as you thought you should love. Why do relationships, any love relationships go sour? I am devoted to researching, reading, and discussing the subject on this blog this summer. I don't mean to point fingers at those of us who have broken up with a man or a woman for the fifteenth time, those of us who just went through our third divorce, those of us who don't have anyone to call a best friend right now. This is not about pointing fingers, this is about healing, and discovering how we are, and how we can make beautiful lasting connections. I have so much to say about this subject, and realize my entries might get too long to read, so I'll break them up into daily anecdotes and try to generate some good discussion. If loves in your life are working, please let us know your secrets, if you're worried you just might never get it right with someone, please commiserate with me here! And then, let's get excited for some summer lovin'!!
What I am discovering is that the opposite of love is fear. I will name these points for today, but in the upcoming days I will be going more into depth about what I am thinking on each of these subjects.
Some Facts About Love and Fear
~Love has no obligations. Fear is full of obligations.
~Love has no expectations. Fear is full of expectations.
~Love is based on respect. Fear doesn't respect anything, including itself.
~Love is ruthless (wait for the discussion on this one!); it doesn't feel sorry for anyone, but it does have compassion. Fear is full of pity; it feels sorry for everyone.
~Love is completely responsible. Fear avoids responsibility , but this doesn't mean that it's not responsible.
~Love is always kind. Fear is always unkind.
~Anger is nothing but fear with a mask. Sadness is fear with a mask. Jealousy is fear with a mask.
~Love is unconditional. Fear is full of conditions.